“Dear Adam and Tony, I am 65, hot and used to be up for a party. But it all seems gone now. When the time comes to go out in the evening, I find myself thinking it would be better just to go to bed. I can go out in my van and score, but it’s cheap and shallow, and most of the time I find it boring. I am fit and still hot enough to score, so I’m told, but it’s all just such a bother. I would rather read some hot stories, get off a couple of times and hit the old waterbed. What to do? Dave”

I found the above letter on Gay.com at http://lifestyle.gay.com/2009/04/age-sex-older-score-old-fantasy.html . This was addressed to life coaches to help this 65 year old man about his issues. There are many responses to his letter. Some positive, some down right mean. Ageing is such a touchy subject and being gay makes it even more complex. I often wonder where I will be at 65. Who will I be with? Will I have kids? What would I have achieved? Will I be satisfied with the outcome of my life? I guess stories like these make you understand that we are not going to be “young” forever. There really is no room for  woulda, shoulda, coulda. We need to create our own destiny’s. With all that said, we cannot avoid the social pressures and structures that guide our decisions in everyday life because they eventually shape the outcome of our lives.